You know when you agree to something the first time you hear it, but then wonder what the hell was I thinking? I had one of those moments almost two years ago with a great friend. I was still dealing with a lot of darkness from my wife’s passing and a ton, I mean a ton of other emotional baggage that came with it.
I often felt trapped and as if I couldn’t breathe. Some not so great thoughts came into my head the first few months after the loss. I may or may not talk about those down the road, we shall see. But this blog is the story of what turned it around for me. What gave me purpose and appreciation of and for life again.
I will preface this blog with the fact that it’s going to be in several parts as we traversed from the Mediterranean side of Italy to the Adriatic. With many stops in between coasts, we travelled nearly 1000 miles in 9 days by car
A quick bit of background about my friend Joe. He met my wife in college in 1981 as they were both majoring in accounting. They quickly became friends and by the Fall of 1984, my wife and I were their best man and maid of honor in their wedding.
Over the years we remained close, as we both had a son and daughter and grew to become like family. Joe, as well as his amazing better half Maria, are the type of people who will give you the shirt off their backs, no questions, if you were in need.
It was nearly a year or so after I had lost my wife, and I would periodically get together with Joe & Maria for dinner at their place in Hamilton Square, NJ. Joe knew I was having a rough time and suggested a guys road trip. I thought, ok, maybe he wants to head upstate for a bit into the mountains to chill.
Silly me. This is Joe I’m talking about here. He wants to go on a 9 day excursion through Italy from the Mediterranean coast to the Adriatic. Stopping in smaller more unique and less touristy type towns. Little did I know what was ahead of me.
I’m hoping this blog provides you a few things. The obvious, to show you the beauty of my native homeland and that it inspires you to visit some of the less popular places. Those that really allow you to absorb the culture and flavor the different regions of Italy have to offer.
Secondly, the value of friendship. Being there for another human being when they are hurting and are in need.
Last, but not least, the power of travel and changing your environment periodically, to both help us appreciate where we are, but also to help us reset for the lives we are returning to.
I quickly discovered there was zero chance of me getting a job as a TV weather person in Italy.
OK. Back to the journey. Rome first stop.
See you for part 2, which really begins the journey. Hope you stop by. Sunshine Always!!!
Loving your honesty Chris. I am unable to see the photos, maybe it’s my connection. I just really love everything about your writing. I learn from you that you may think 🤔 that someone has it all, fame and glory, no problems, no bumps in the rode, but think again. Podcast next please, but don’t stop blogging. Can’t wait to hear more about this trip.
Wow! I think road trips are in themselves restorative… was this idea prompted by that British movie The Trip : Italy? I loved seeing Rob Brydon and Steve Coogan eating their way down the italian coast
The force behind it…we are always searching for the connection.
A person, a place, a memory.
Keep searching,
as long as you take us with you.
Stay the course…
Sorry for your loss! Been watching you for years and somehow didn’t know you lost your wife. Normally the viewers are aware. Glad I found this blog! I’m looking to go to Italy hopefully in 2020 with my husband. I am Italian and feel the need to go. Thank you for your insights I hope your well and strong and find happiness of all forms!!
It’s rare to find that kind of friendship! My brother is very unique! Glad you were able to take this trip with him and hope it helped in your healing process. Enjoying the blog very much! You are a very talented writer ( which I could tell from your speech at Joe’s wedding lol) Keep it up! Wishing you much success.
Sandra Paolo
Nothing like a trip to refresh your mind and spirit! I know from experience…once after a breakup with my first love at age 18 that I thought I’d never survive (young love and such), and another time after a breakup with “Mr. Wrong” at age 26, lol. Also and very sadly, my husband and I also embarked on a long road trip after the loss of our first child, our baby daughter.
New horizons bring new perspectives. I am enjoying the blog and sending you every good wish in the world.
Nicole Pinou